So I've decided that High Fidelity has pushed its way toward the top of my all-time movie list. (Other films holding that coveted spot: Philadelphia Story, Breakfast At Tiffany’s, Blade Runner. In case you haven't been paying attention.) When the movie came out I was deluged with phone calls/emails from friends (many of whom to which I had recommended the book in the first place (see Tom, that's proper english, although I could've gotten away with "many of whom I reccomeded the book to" but I'm erring on the side of stylistic integrity here)) who were like, "Tank, we just saw a movie, and the main character is you."

But I came home last night, l, and popped in the film in question and realized that I am no Lloyd Dobler. No. I am the pop culture dweeb, smarter than your average bear, that is constantly struggling with the notion of "growth."
(Here I really have to apologize for the overabundance of quotes and parenthetical asides, but in this situation, and for what I'm trying to convey, I honestly think they are appropriate.)
At my core, it's true, I am who I am. And, for all the responsibility I've managed to shoulder over the years, the base -- the core -- of my being is still centered around music and the night-life and all the detritus and satisfaction that orbits that mentality.
Is this appropriate for one in their early '30s? Is this the mark of a mature human male? Is this what my parents hoped for when I popped out in 1972, full of ambition and promise? Is this what I was meant to be?
To be honest, the more I think about it, the more I think the answer to all those questions is "yes." I mentioned the whole idea of a "core" top my being and I'm pretty sure that I need to be honest to that core. I've wavered and hemmed and hawed and vacillated between a number of states in the past few years but I think that the most I (or anyone else) can ask for is that I follow my own path and do so with conviction.
If you do that which is right for you, then everything else will fall into place. Eventually.
So I think it's time to stop all the second guessing and faux-internalization (especially since said faux-internalization always ends up being a sallow (shallow (weak)) attempt at justifying dubious (internally, to me, again) behavior) and begin just being. Again.
This isn't to say that happiness will be found through mimicry of a movie, or regression to past states that once held easy happiness. But it is to say that perhaps it's time for me to stop trying to figure out what I think I want and just center on making myself a better and more complete -- and by extension, happier -- person.
Everything else will fall into place.
POST SCRIPT (as opposed to a P.S.): Oddly enough this started , mentally at least, along a whole different tract. Predictably one that involved ex-girlfriends (since the first thoughts of this started to germinate during the "Top Five Break-ups" list outlined in the High Fidelity cinematic experience.)
Obviously it took a completely different tangent. At least now I know I can mine that whole "Top Five Break-ups" thing at a later point. Huzzah!
Post-post Script (a.k.a. the P.P.S.): The sad thing is, all the above hornswaggle is actually the way I talk. Minus any "air-quotes" of course.
Absolutely the Final Post-script: I'm really good at creating events that leave people with fond memories...now I need to create something concrete that affects people over a span (infinite?) of time and allows them to develop reactions and create memories responsively.
What I've done is fleeting, what I need is a legacy.
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